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Saturday, October 7, 2017

Foiled by a Field Mouse, Ousted by an Owl; Sounds of the Night (Normal versus the Abnormal)

by Robin M. Strom-Mackey

This post is intended for paranormal investigators, performing evidence review. I post this because I was getting ready to pull the evidence from our last investigation together, and I was sitting soundly on the fence about one clip.

In the clip you see our two investigators discussing an odd smell. Then at 00:35 you hear an odd wailing noise.  We don't appear to hear it, because we make no mention of it. However, it's clearly on the sound recording.


I was confused as to whether the sound was human or animal?  I've been fooled by owls before. Their otherworldly calls can sound very like a wail or a moan, especially when filtered through walls.  The area around the building we were investigating was  heavily wooded, making the owl theory even more likely.

So I did some digging on YouTube, because I didn't want to come away, once again, foiled by a critter of the night.  Below are video recordings of both foxes and the great horned owl, the owl I felt most closely matched this particular wailing sound.

Fox calls: Pay attention especially to the section entitled Bark and Scream which begins at 1:38


Great Horned Owl:   Note Mr. Owl hoots at around 2:28 in the clip, and if you listen a little before and after you hear a distant owl that appears to be answering him.  Notice how close the wailing in the video sounds to the more distant owl. 



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p4CRqJJW6S8

As I gather evidence, obviously I want all of our time and effort to amount to something, I want it very much. . But obviously that something doesn't matter at all if I start labeling owls as paranormal. Paranormal Investigators, please weigh in.  What is your opinion?

Monday, September 25, 2017

What Are Ghosts: A Tri Philosophical Discussion

What Are Ghosts
By Robin M. Strom-Mackey

I attended a speaking event one evening with a Parapsychologist.  I remember distinctly that a woman in the audience asked him if ghosts were the souls of a dead people.  He hedged from admitting that bold statement.  Then the woman became combative, basically halting the presentation so that she could pepper the speaker with questions.  She believed ghosts were the souls of the dead and why wouldn’t he confirm that? Why? Why? Why wouldn’t he just say it? It amazed me just how emotionally invested she was in the belief, that if anyone dissented, especially if a subject matter expert on the subject disagreed, that she would get that upset. 

As rude as she was, I wondered if she hadn’t lost someone close to her.  When this happens this question becomes far less academic, and far more personal. Because if ghosts exist (A), and they’re the soul of a dead person (B), then my loved one might come back to me as a ghost (C). And there you have the spiritual ABC’s.  People often believe in this premise simply because they want so strongly to believe.

I was taking a course in Psychology, while working on my latest degree. The professor had all of the students stand up and introduce themselves, tell the class what your major was and a little about yourself etc.  I was one of only three older adults in a large class of essentially teenagers.  When my turn came I did the requisite, “hi, I’m Robin and I’m studying…and in my spare time I’m a ghost hunter.”  You would have thought I had said my made my living pole dancing, by the sea of shocked and disgusted faces I had looking back at me.  One young man was even so bold as to announce to the class that there is “no such thing as ghosts.”  Old, slow, and now apparently a freak as well, I didn’t find my classmates overly friendly throughout the rest of the course. (However, the professor, was fascinated and we would often converse about our experiences.)  I learned more than just psychology in that course. I learned to pick and choose carefully who I told about my passion.

I share these two stories to demonstrate either extreme of the spectrum, between those are completely closed to the idea that anything paranormal could ever be real versus those who so vehemently wish to believe that ghosts are proof that we survive death that they resist any other theories.

For the true skeptics the question of the paranormal is absurd, because there are no such things as ghosts. Not surprisingly, most staunch non-believers never have a paranormal experience, because they’re vehemently closed to the very idea.  I’ve often attributed this to the sheep-goat theory.

Very briefly, Professor of Psychology at City University of New York, Gertrude Schmeidler first coined the phrase in 1942. She was trying to explain the disparity in psi test results between people who believed in psi (formerly extra-sensory perception or ESP) or were at least open to the idea versus those who denied the very possibility of psi. The subjects that believed in psi she called sheep.  The sheep, when given an ESP card test tended to score statistically above chance by a significant margin. Goats, who said they did not believe in psi tended to score statistically below the level of chance, again by a significant margin.

When it comes to belief in the paranormal adamant non-believers (goats) of psychic experiences rarely have such an experience. They deny or block their otherwise natural psi abilities. I’m talking about psychic abilities now because researchers have suggested that when someone experiences something paranormal they’re actually experiencing it via their sixth sense – their psi ability which parapsychology researchers believe we all possess to some degree or another.  Thus if you see an apparition of a woman in white, you’re not actually seeing it with your eyes, but with your mind. This helps explain the anomaly where not everyone in a group sees a ghost, but only one or two do. 

This also accounts for the fact that children, especially small children, appear to have more experiences with the paranormal than older adults. I.e. that imaginary friend may be more than simply imaginary. Children have psychic experiences because they haven’t yet been conditioned to the idea that they can’t have them. (Also, it is believed that psi abilities are stronger in the young, and decrease as we age.) Thus young Caiden in Chapter Five playing Peek-a-boo with his grandfather is not uncommon - despite the fact that Grandpa is deceased.

One learned psychologist, a skeptic, suggested that ghosts existed only in one place, a person’s mind.  He speculated that we made up ghosts to fill a need within ourselves.  In one of his cases he met with a young married couple who felt their house was haunted. The wife kept seeing a child apparition in the home. It turned out the young woman was desirous of having children of her own, and when she became pregnant the child apparition disappeared. Poof. How neat and tidy is that explanation?

Of course psychologists have also suggested that when we get caught and punished for a crime, it’s because we wanted to be caught. Hence, when I get stopped by a cop and handed a very expensive speeding ticket I make sure to always thank him for fulfilling my unspoken need.  (By the way it hasn’t escaped my notice that I got far more warnings when I was in my twenties, and far more tickets when I was in my forties, despite my vast pole dancing fame.)

I digress. Back to the learned psychologist that suggested that ghosts were purely a figment of our imagination created to fill a need.  I have met people that want so very much to have an experience that they grasp at anything and everything as evidence.  Whether they just crave the thrill or have lost a loved one with whom they wish to connect.  But while this may be true in some cases, I disagree that it’s true in all cases. Just as I don’t honestly need another speeding ticket, not all of my clients desire a haunting. The sometimes panicked voices I’ve heard on the phone imploring me to, “please come as soon as you can. I’m afraid to stay in my own house!”  These are people, not seeking attention, but relief.

For many Christians a ghost is a demon. All souls get dispersed of course, upon death, and either take the escalator up or down, you either get household goods or women’s lingerie depending on your proclivities.  Hence anything of a paranormal nature gets labeled as evil. I once had such a person request membership in the group. He made it through two investigations before having a major melt down. I felt bad for him. How could you have that belief system and ever knowingly walk into a building that you believe was haunted? It would have to be terrifying.

Ghosts may also be a series of misinterpretations of natural phenomenon.  One of my investigators, Maya, often recalls moving into a new house, where when the wood floors made a crazy popping sound every time the temperature changed.  It took a couple of sleepless nights before she and her husband figured out that it was the floors and not an interloper in their house.  The banging of pipes, loose windows that rattle, things that fall over because of gravity and not a ghost, all these can be labeled a ghost. I have a haunted house theory which suggests a snow ball effect. Many people, once they think a building is haunted, henceforward believe that everything that happens is because of the ghost. And of course each new bit of evidence gets weighed in with the old as the mound of misinterpretation mounts. I once had a woman ask me to do an investigation because she’d seen an orb in a picture, and a small child in the home would walk up to the staircase and put his hands out like he wanted to be carried up the stairs. Now that’s a mole hill and not a mound of evidence. Of course she started the conversation by telling me when such and such family member passed. So I guessed we were talking about a combination of soul of the dead guy and misinterpretation.

So what is a ghost?
a)     A figment of our imagination
b)     A figment of our imagination created by our imagination to fulfill a need
c)      The soul of a dead guy who somehow became earthbound
d)     A demon
e)     Misinterpretation of natural phenomenon
f)       Other


Let’s consider F for a moment.  In my own studies, readings and writings, I’ve found a strong correlation between what the ancients believed about ghosts, (in particular the Egyptians who as we all know made the afterlife their main area of focus) what parapsychologists suggest about ghosts, and what those in the magical studies propose a ghost to be.  It was a revelation I had one day, that these three disparate groups, while labeling them with different names, were essentially all saying the same thing.  After more than a decade of study, debate and writing I found that while the terms vary greatly, the ideas at their basest elements were very similar.

The Dead of Egypt
No one can deny that one of the most supernaturally predisposed culture was that of the ancient Egyptians with their elaborate traditions of mummification and their monolithic pyramids filled with treasure built to shelter the pharaohs in their never ending afterlife. 
For the Egyptian’s no human was merely physical, but consisted of several elements. Each human had a body or physical presence as well as a shadow, a double, a soul, a heart, a spirit, a name, a power and a spiritual body. After death the shadow departed, and could only be brought back with a mystical ceremony.  There were subtleties to the different entities that are hard to describe with our western terms such as soul.

The double or ka (the double or image or character) of the deceased lived with the body in the tomb, or didn’t if ceremonies were not performed properly.  So it was the ka that was the immortal dweller of the tomb, and was believed to be the one to inhabit the statue of the deceased.  A statue closely resembling the deceased was thoughtfully left for that purpose. So important to keeping the double satisfied that special priests, called priests of the ka were called in to minister to the ka, and there was a special room of the tomb set aside for the ka, called the house of the ka (3). 

It was the ka, who if not properly maintained became a wandering spirit after death.   Apparently the ka had an insatiable appetite and needed to be fed with offerings of meat and drink.  Should the offerings not be performed, the ka might depart the tomb in search of food.  Apparently the ka did not have a refined palette and would consume any dung or filthy water it came across.

The ba (or soul) resided in heaven with Osiris or Ra.  It was capable of returning to the tomb at will, however, and could also partake of the offerings of food and drink that were left for the ka.  It could assume a material or semi-material form sometimes.

 At times the ba and ka might become united, into a being that was called the Akh or khu or akhu, which was an enlightened being.  Earlier Egyptians believed that only Pharaoh could achieve this union, but later interpretations declared that people of higher moral character could as well.  To become an akh or enlightened spirit one must be judged just.  These souls were allowed to live among the gods or among the pole stars which never set.  However, the akh spirit could interact with the living as well, and it was the akh that returned as an unhappy spirit to harass the living.  If proper burial rites had been neglected or if someone close to the akh had sinned against him or her, then the akh could return briefly to the Earth to seek restitution. 

Notice the disparity between the ka and the ba.  The ka, while sharing some of the characteristics of the deceased, served more as a kind of caricature of the deceased.  It really didn’t exhibit sound critical thinking skills, choosing to drink fetid water and eat poo. The ba, which did go to a type of heaven, could come back briefly only to redress issues, and then had to return.  Most ancient cultures believed that the soul of a person departed to some other plane of existence after death, especially if the burial rites were performed properly.   

Magical Disciplines
Students of the magical disciplines are taught as well that a human is an entity comprised of several elements or levels. 

Physical Level
On the lowest level is our physical being. The body is the densest and lowest of the levels of existence. We perceive it with our five senses: sight, smell, hearing, touching or tasting, although I wouldn’t suggest you start licking people, nor eating poo for that matter. (And you thought you’d get no sage advice from reading this book!)

Etheric Level
The etheric level is our life force, that energy that animates the clay of our bodies. Often associated with the breath, it is also the organ of subtle energies. It is our aura the mediums often talk about, that energy that surrounds us and emanates from us. The etheric plane is limited to time and space as the body in the physical plane. Entities in the etheric plane are tied to the body while the body lives and cannot have an independent existence outside the physical body, but occupy the same space and are the same shape as the body. Sometimes the etheric body can be spotted by those sensitive and/or trained in the art. When they do appear, away from the body, they look like gray shadowy figures in the form of the person they represent.

Astral Level
At this level is our concrete consciousness. It is the realm of our dreams, our imagination, our creativity, but also our ordinary mental activity. This level of existence is bound to space and time, but not limited by them.  Everything that exists on the physical plane, every rock, tree, frog or person has a corresponding astral body as well. But the astral level is more malleable. The power of willful thinking can reshape the astral body, though it eventually returns to its natural appearance. Now this is starkly in line with some quantum theories, which suggest that the mind and willful consciousness can shape reality, or our perceptions of reality.

Mental Level
This is the level of abstract consciousness, a dimension which is both timeless and space less. Such fundamentals such as the laws of math and the fundamental pattern of the cosmos exist on this level. For a human, this level is where our fundamental and immortal pattern of ourselves exists.  One this plane one can view the past and also view possible futures.  The building material in the mental plane is fluid and changeable; shaped by mental will.

Spiritual Level
This is the level of primal unity, from which everything in the universe emanates and to which they return.  At this level is our monad or spiritual body, which sheds its individuality to become one with the universe, the transcendent core of the self.

In order to keep this brief we will content ourselves with a quick discussion of the etheric level.  The etheric level being the closest to the physical level, it is a level of existence that is limited by time and space. It is close to the material world, matter, and can affect matter. The energy of the etheric realm can be focused and directed and shaped for that matter by conscious will. They can also be focused or diffused by different methods. When in concentration these energies can take on almost a physical solidity. They can be felt, for example, by the nerve endings of human skin. Hence the hair raising heebie jeebies we sometimes feel when in a haunted location. They may coalesce into a visible shape that appears solid or nearly solid. They can exert energy on matter, affect physical objects, and appear to have mass and inertia. When diffused, however, the energies become intangible and difficult to detect.

Magical teachings also talk about the three levels of death. The first of course being the death of the physical body, separating the etheric body and the attached other levels. Slower deaths can cause a gradual separation of the etheric body from the physical that last weeks or even months. Abrupt or violent death causes an abrupt separation and confusion.  The second death normally takes from one to three days, before the etheric body disintegrates allowing the other levels to disperse.  It can be delayed however, depending on the strength of the etheric body and the attitude of the dying person.  The third death involves the disintegration of the etheric body and the release of the astral body to the astral plane.

The etheric body is mortal and weak. Sunlight causes further disintegration. Often within three days the etheric body will decay, the astral body will separate from it and return to the astral plane. Now the etheric body is a shell without real intelligence (think ka again) but with a desire towards preserving itself.  It is a ghost, in effect.  Sometimes it will remain near its physical remains, where it tries to glean energy for survival from the body that housed it and fed it in the past. Other times it will return to a favored place, attempting to reassert itself, and gleaning energy from the people that now live in the space – trying to prolong its existence.  Eventually it disintegrates fully.

This may seem a bit extraordinary to someone not of the magical sphere. However, studies of Near Death Experiences indicate a similar progression.  When a person dies, the etheric body, like the ka, is separated permanently from the physical body. In accounts of Near Death Experiences (NDE’s), one of the first things reported by respondents is seeing their body from another location. They almost always report looking down at their lifeless bodies from somewhere near the ceiling.  What’s even more remarkable is that many of them accurately recall events that were going on around them when they were clinically dead (I.e. they had no detectable brain functioning).   The magical disciplines also speak of this, noting that the etheric body will stay awhile near the physical body. 

Those that recall a deeper NDE experience, report going through a dark tunnel, and arriving at another plane of existence, just as magical philosophy teaches that we ascend to a higher level of existence, the astral plane.

But what happens when all does not goes as planned?  Apparently an entity can stall out between the first and second deaths, according to magical teachings. And this is when ghostly activity occurs. Most of the time the etheric body is in a kind of dream state, and doesn’t interact with the living.  Sometimes, however, the sleep state is disrupted.  If the etheric body feels it has tasks yet to accomplish, messages to impart, it may linger to perform them.  Messages delivered it then departs.  This accounts for the number of people that report having their departed loved one make one final appearance to say goodbye.

But sometimes the etheric body gets trapped for a longer period between the second and third deaths.  Sudden or violent death, especially if the deceased is feeling strong negative emotions, causes the etheric body to be torn from the body while it’s unadulterated.  A dying person who is experiencing very strong emotions such as fear, anger, extreme pain, sadness can also, unwittingly forge a link with etheric ally receptive objects in the environment. Similarly if they spend a long period of time in one location and they’re fixated on negative emotions the bond between etheric body and object can be made. In effect the dying person becomes anchored in the material world.

Finally, sometimes only the emotions, usually strong emotions, can imprint on the environment, long after the person or persons have died. This then is a residual haunting, which is merely a replaying of past events recorded into the environment. The events never change, never deviate, the apparition if one appears never interacts with the living. Many former battlefields and hospitals, mental institutions, places where people have suffered therefore are often imprinted in this manner.

What Parapsychologists Suggest
You may be wondering what a parapsychologist is, and why I keep bandying about the term. Parapsychology is actually a branch of psychology which attempts to scientifically study paranormal and psychic phenomena. Begun during the Spiritualist Movement in the 1880’s, parapsychologists originally investigated hauntings, tested psychics and studied such things as clairvoyance, psychokinesis, Near-death experiences and the like.  In the 1900’s they turned their attention primarily to the study of psi abilities, because these could be studied in a laboratory setting under careful scrutiny.  Remember Dr. Peter Venkman (played by Bill Murray) in Ghost Busters? In the first scene of the movie Murray is performing a test for psychic abilities by holding up cards (called Rhine cards after J.P. Rhine who invented them) and having the students try to guess the symbol.  Venkman and the boys were parapsychologists.  Under constant disdain and ridicule from the rest of the scientific world, which considers anything that can’t touched, seen or tasted as a fabrication of the imagination, sadly, parapsychology appears to be a dying breed, with the youngest parapsychologist in his 40’s.  (Don’t start licking scientists either, though they might have it coming.)

The hypothesis of Psi Projection has been suggested by many in the parapsychology field using various terms but basically suggesting the same end. The hypothesis suggests that strong emotions may cause an imprint in the environment and that an aspect or aspects of a personality may be able to imbed themselves as a form of replication at a location.  If enough of a person’s personality is able to imprint on a location after the person dies or perhaps remains after the person leaves, it may have enough personality to actually behave in a seemingly intelligent manner.  Incidentally, death may not even be a contributing factor to the copying that occurs. 

The theory reminds me of my computer has this pesky idiosyncrasy when I try to delete photos. I’ll highlight the photos to delete them and it will make copies of them instead, and where I had one bad photo to delete, now I have two – the original and the replica.  This theory is also reminiscent of the Egyptian belief described in Chapter One of the ka.  The ka wasn’t actually the soul of the person (the soul going onto Auru, the Egyptian heaven), but a replica of the person’s personality – the ghost – that stayed with the body. It is also starkly similar to the etheric body described by those involved in magical studies, the etheric body being basically a lower level, unintelligent being, who can get imbedded in an environment or stalled between the second and third death cycle.

In the “psi projection theory” the personality replica would be able, on a limited basis to interact with people.  It might be able to answer simple questions such as what is your name, or did you live here? Quite possibly it would be able to make auditory sounds or even manifest visually upon request.  And in some limited capacity it might even be able to effect matter, move an object etc.  But not being the actual soul of a living person, it would not be able to change, or understand the changes going on around it.  It would probably not have a memory and not be able to learn new things such as the year it is now.  It might be able to interact, but never to remember new experiences.  One can again we see the similarities to the poo eating Ka, and the semi-sleep state of the disembodied etheric entity.

So how might such an imprint or copy be made?  Quantum physics offers an explanation.  If you know nothing about Quantum Physics, it is an area of study that is an offshoot of Physics, which is a study of the natural, material world. Hence Quantum Physics is to physics what parapsychology is to psychology, only quantum physicists get far more respect (probably because they never mention ghosts.)  Quantum physics as a research study really began with the discovery that light acts both as a particle and a wave. As such sometimes it flows as a wave does, but its flow can be staunched until light dribbles out through a blockage one particle at a time.  This was a miraculous discovery at the time with two heated factions claiming that light was either a wave or a particle.

Within the brain human thought appears to move as waves as well, with electrical impulses flowing across neurons at lightning speed and varying frequencies.  We know this to be true because we can test brainwaves with an electroencephalograph or EEG machine.   We might speculate that thought like light might move as both a particle and a wave.  And if this were true we could theorize that our bodies would be constantly surrounded by a sea of thought particles, think the multi-colored auras reported by mediums who may not have been too far off.  This idea of a psi field has been accepted for decades by parapsychologists, and is further suggested by consciousness studies.  Think Carl Jung and our old friend William James for theories on a collective and an ever present stream of consciousness.

The psi field extends beyond the organism and saturates the environment around it. It is capable of interacting with the psi fields of other organisms and perhaps even objects.  Consider your childhood science experiment with the metal shavings and the magnet for a moment. Remember how the magnetic shavings would immediately line up in the direction of the magnet.  The molecules of a magnet are aligned or distributed in one organized direction. Therefore, if a magnet is introduced into an electromagnetic field the field will realign to this new magnet.  Accordingly, if a strong emotion or emotions is interjected into the environment it will act as a magnet, and reorganize or realign the thought particles.  Do recall that all thought patterns in the brain are fueled by a low level of electro-magnetic energy.

Parapsychologists use the analogy of tapes, although this metaphor is somewhat dated with the new technologies emerging.  Audio or video tape depended on a coating of easily magnetized particles to make recordings. The tape itself moved through a device which produced magnetic impulses. These magnetic impulses caused the particles on the tape to realign into a pattern that matched the magnetic impulses, which resulted in a recorded image or sound – or both.

Supposedly a very strong emotion, or many strong emotions, sent out into the environment over time could cause the thought particles in the environment to realign in patterns that matched the original thoughts, and that could be perceived by someone with a suitably developed psychic ability.  

Psychic ability seems to be easily equated with the strength of an individual’s antenna.  Some may only be equipped with the stupid rabbit ear antennas that sat atop televisions until recently, and needed constant readjustment. Other people may be equipped with the large, roof top antennas that brought in far more channels, while still others were receiving images from satellites in space and could receive all the channels – all for free. Lucky dogs.  
But what does the antenna actually detect? It may be that individuals with heightened psi abilities may be sensitive or hyper sensitive to electromagnetic fields.  Thus if they enter an area with unusual amount of electromagnetic fields they will feel uneasy, or watched.  They may even have physiological reactions such as becoming nauseous or ill.  This hypersensitivity may allow them to pick up on electromagnetic resonance or anomalies in the area more readily than a person without this sensitivity.   Anomalous electromagnetic fields can be natural, as in areas with seismic activity, or manmade such as buildings located near power lines.  They may also pick up on electromagnetic resonance which is one theory as to how a spirit may communicate with us.

Traumatic events would cause stronger imprinting upon the environment, thus sites where murders, suicides or battle occurred would have stronger impacting projections.  Think of the most haunted sites you remember, mental hospitals, prisons and battlefields always surface at the top of the list.  Sites with unusual electromagnetic or geomagnetic properties are more likely to be regarded as haunted. 

Such sites with seismic faults or underground water sources may further create a “containment zone” for activity that holds paranormal activity for longer periods of time.  Water in particular appears to have an ability to record or retain information.  Although haunting phenomena does tend to decrease in both regularity and intensity over time, when the particles are eventually scattered.

These hypothetical thought-particle imprints might carry either a telepathic or psychokinetic charge – meaning they might be perceived more subjectively or objectively as thoughts or impressions or as physical disturbances.  Telepathic imprints would result in more subjective phenomena, such as seeing an apparition, feeling cold spots, hearing sounds of footsteps or voices or merely sensing a feeling of being watched.

The psychokinetic impulses would result in more objective phenomena such as recordable sounds like footsteps or knocking, objects actually being moved or manipulated such as in poltergeist cases.  Poltergeist activity could be explained by the dynamic changeability of a human agent who is present and constantly changing the psychic thought patterns.  Residual haunts could be explained by a type of “psychic residue,” phenomena that is repetitive and non-interactive, left over from a former resident. And these random thought-energy particles may hold the essence of consciousness – or as I have suggested – a copy of the personality of an agent.  Remember my computer making a copy of my photo as I try to delete it, this would be more like copying the entire hard drive of the computer.

In the End
I think in the end we can see the similarities between the three, very disparate, fields of study concur.  While the terminology is different, the effects appear to be the same. At the most basic level of haunting, a residual, and the paranormal activity is merely an imprint, a recording of past events that does not interact with the human world.  At the other end of the spectrum, the intelligent haunt will and can interact with its environment and the inhabitants therein, but, and I apologize to the rude lady, they’re still not the soul of our dearly departed, but just a more complex or more completed copy of the departed’s personality. Having said that, hauntings are still enormously fascinating to investigate. Best case scenario, the careful investigation of hauntings may lead us to a better understanding of the human condition, consciousness, and the extension of life after death.



Friday, September 15, 2017

A Demon in Delaware; There's No Place like Home

by Robin M. Strom-Mackey
 
“The only thing I can ever say is, have you ever had the experience of walking into a place and saying, this is holy?  It’s maybe a church or something like that?  This was the opposite. It was desecrated. It was evil.”
 
Recently I was sitting with a young couple who were at the time applying for membership with the group. I began the interview with my usual first question, “So why do wish to investigate the paranormal?” I wasn’t prepared for the answer.
 
“Well, one reason is we saw a demon.”

A startled me asked quickly, “You what? What do you mean you saw a demon?”

“Yes, we were at our friend’s house playing board games and we saw a demon. Clear as day. Both I and the woman who lived there saw him.”

I halted the interview right there and ran for my audio recorder, as I didn’t want to miss the details.    They agreed without hesitation to my recording and writing about their experience. And what I heard was a harrowing story of a young lady’s struggles to keep home and family together in the midst of evil.

The account began innocently enough. A young couple with a three-year-old daughter had rented an apartment in a newer complex, once again defying the belief that only older buildings with a tragic past can have paranormal activity.  The husband worked for the Department of Corrections in Georgetown, Delaware at the time, working nights.  He’d depart for work around three or four in the afternoon and wouldn’t return home until later in the morning. Often he would work double shifts, and hence was absent a lot. 

The wife, for anonymity’s sake we’ll call her Jessica, was a stay-at-home Mom who spent most of her time with her daughter Anna. It was a two bedroom apartment, one bedroom for the couple and one for their daughter. A family room and kitchen area led off the hallway to the bedrooms, with the hallway visible from the kitchen.  In Brianna’s estimation the activity didn’t begin immediately, but started four to six months after the couple rented the apartment.

Predictably the activity was first experienced and reported by the daughter.  This is the norm in demon cases, where a demon will first begin by ingratiating themselves with the child or children.  Anna started repeatedly telling her mother about a door in her room, only it wasn’t actually a door anyone could see.  The child would tell her mother, “door, Mommy, door,” meanwhile pointing at the wall above her doll house. Not having any idea what the little girl was talking about, Jessica brushed it off at first. Then Anna started reporting that she would see a man and she would see a monkey, meanwhile pointing at the corner of her bedroom and saying, “door, Mommy, door, door. Monkey wants to play.” 

Jessica had been a very close friend of Brianna’s, and because her husband was gone so often Brianna and Carl spent a lot of time with Jessica and young Anna to ease the loneliness.  They started hearing about the strange stories that Anna was telling her Mom.  And then Jessica confided that she had started to notice odd things herself.  In the bathroom above the tub, near the ceiling, Jessica noticed small grimy hand prints as if a child hand had put their hands in ashes and then placed them on the wall. Only Jessica had no conceivable idea how Anna could have reached that high.  She also started to hear scratching noises in Anna’s room on the wall where the supposed “door” was located.  Carl and Brianna were staying the night one evening, camped out in the living room/kitchenette when they also reported hearing scratching noises on the wall that separated them from Anna’s room. 

Jessica also started noticing objects moving unaccountably and the sinister occurrence of the number three.  According to Brianna, Jessica had coasters she kept in the kitchen. She found the coasters on day on her kitchen table in a triangle of three.  She would sometimes hear three knocks on the wall.  Carl agreed, “She kept getting these constant three, three, three, and I told her this isn’t good. And she didn’t want it, anytime I brought it up she didn’t want [to hear it].” 
Other items were moving as well, according to Carl. Items from the laundry room would be in the kitchen.  Things from the bathroom would be in the bed. They were all small objects, objects that a child could move. Only the items would be moved when her daughter was asleep, or when they were out of the apartment. There didn’t appear to be any logical reason for the items to be where they were found.

Jessica started noticing that Anna had odd bruises, about the width of a finger that would appear on the back of her neck, right under her hairline. Carl said, “She wouldn’t have them when she went to bed. She’d wake up with them. It looked awfully funny.”

Carl and Brianna both admit that the apartment felt oppressive and that after leaving the apartment they often felt exhausted.  Brianna concurred, “It was draining. And they were newer apartments.” 

Sadly, Jessica’s husband of the late nights and double shifts was rarely home.  He was also a reservist, so he was often training in Virginia on weekends when he might otherwise have been home. When he was home he didn’t experience any of the weird phenomena that Jessica and Anna were experiencing.  Hence he didn’t believe Jessica when she tried to explain the strange things that were happening to her and Anna.  Worse, Carl noted that he was fiercely skeptical. In Carl’s estimation, the husband could have experienced the phenomena first-hand and still not believed it, he was so fiercely skeptical. A rift was developing between husband and wife, fueled by their constant time apart, and fed by his denial of what was happening to his own family.
Brianna and Carl spent every Wednesday night with Jessica and Anna, it was their standing date. One particular Wednesday evening the three adults were playing a board game in the kitchen at Jessica’s pub-style kitchen table.  Brianna was sitting with her back to the hallway, but Jessica was sitting facing the hallway and Carl was standing in the kitchen facing the hallway and both clearly saw a figure right out of a nightmare. Brianna could tell there was something going on by the, “look on their faces. I could tell there was something wrong, and I asked them, what did you see? And Carl just said, ‘we’ve got to get out.’”

In Carl’s own words, “I saw a figure, completely [black], blacker than black, walking at me.  And this thing was like six foot six [inches]. The grin…and teeth it showed…  The only thing I can describe it as, it just wanted to make your soul want to scream. You knew it was just pure evil.  The eyes weren’t a distinct color but they were long to the side, kind of like a fish. I’ve never seen anything like it.” Carl reported that he noticed no distinguishable clothing as the rest of the figure was simply a dense black.

Carl also recalls a feeling of fear that went beyond simply seeing the creature.  “It’s one thing to walk into a place and feel it’s creepy. You walked into it…sigh. The only thing I can ever say is, have you ever had the experience of walking into a place and saying, this is holy?  It’s maybe a church or something like that?  This was the opposite. It was desecrated. It was evil. Seeing it made you physically sick. I wanted to throw up.”

“I just remember the eyes and the grin, and the teeth. And I turned to Jessica and she looked at me and she just wanted to vomit. And she said, ‘you just saw that, right?’ I said, get the kids out, because they were all just sitting there watching T.V.” Jessica’s niece and nephew were over visiting that night as well.

I asked Carl if he any other recollections of the event hearing anything odd, smelling anything? Carl did recall a strange odor in the apartment that he couldn’t actually identify.  But then he noted that there was an apartment of Haitians above them.  “And they were all the time cooking very strange things.  And they were all the time playing extremely strange music.”

Brianna added, “They were always stomping around.  She [Jessica] had had to make several complaints. It would be like one or two in the morning and they would be up there stomping or dancing, or whatever they were doing up there.  She actually went up there herself at one point. She said there was no furniture in the place. She said there were quite a few of them. I don’t remember how many there were, but she said there was no furniture. She said it was very, very odd.”

The account was starting to take on similar overtones to other accounts I had researched where practitioners of voodoo (also known as vudun, vaudin, voudoun, vodou or vaudoux) had, whether knowingly or unwittingly summoned something dark.

It appears that Haiti was the birth place of voodoo around 1724.  Borrowing aspects of Western African religions, voodoo intermingles many of the Catholic saints and rituals into its practice.  The religion was brought to Louisiana in the early 1800’s when Cuban plantation owners began importing Haitian slaves.

While practitioners of voodoo believe in one higher being, they believe that God is so far removed from their everyday lives that they must invoke other spirits for favors. Basically for the voodoo practitioner there are three categories of spirits from which they can invoke, the spirits of beloved ancestors, the spirits of the dead who were unloved and unclaimed, and the Twins which are the twin forces of good and evil. 

Voodoo rituals are steeped in secret magical language (often Latin), animal sacrifices, spirit possessed dancing and trances.  The object of invoking the spirits may be to communicate with their deceased loved ones, or they may be for darker purposes. The more sinister practices are used to cast curses and spells on enemies, and yes, to summon evil spirits (1, 2).
Demonologists insist that demons cannot enter a premises without being invited, either knowingly or through negligence such as living a life steeped in violence and deceit.  It may be that Jessica’s Haitian neighbors had not only rung the bell on this particular demon’s door, but had invited him over for a nice long visit.

After Jessica and Carl witnessed this creature in the hall they decided they must immediately vacate the apartment.  It was very late in the evening, and the only thing they could think to do was take everyone out for ice cream. “Friendly’s in Seaford was still open at that time. So we went in. When she was ready we took them back [to the apartment.  It took a while, and we, for a long time just sat in the car and talked. And when she was ready to go back we went back. She didn’t really want us with her. She basically said, ‘you know what, it’s late. You guys just go home. I’m just going to go to bed.’” Later in the night Jessica heard scratching on the walls, as she had before.

In Carl’s estimation, the activity started to escalate quickly after the sighting. Anna started refusing to sleep in her room, demanding instead to sleep in Jessica’s bed. Further Anna started reporting, “Monkey and man” and pointing to the left-hand corner of her mother’s room.  Jessica became scared, and mother and daughter were sleeping on the couch in the living room. Carl notes that the little girl was suffering from horrific nightmares. “The nightmares that she was having.  Things that a child that age shouldn’t have. Monsters killing her.” Brianna added, “Screaming, ah, she went to bed about seven or seven-thirty, and she [Jessica] would lay her down and the monitor would be out with us. And she was just so restless. Crying in her sleep. And she [Jessica] would go running into her room. We’d be watching T.V. in the other room and her daughter would just wake up screaming. And she’d run in. And she really didn’t say a whole lot, because she really didn’t want to talk about it. She got to a point where all this stuff was happening and it’s my home.” Jessica was at a loss. It had taken them awhile to find the apartment in the first place, and now it was their home.  She simply felt she had nowhere else to go.

Carl and Brianna felt they had to seek help. Brianna asked her father for assistance.  Being Native American, Brianna’s father was friends with a shaman named Little Bear who would sometimes conduct cleansings for friends who asked his assistance.  They contacted Little Bear and he agreed to come to the apartment to assess the situation and if necessary to cleanse the apartment. When he arrived, Little Bear initially left his gear in his car, telling Brianna he simply wanted to go in first and find out what he, “was dealing with.” He had brought Brianna’s father and his wife and two other friends along as well.   According to Brianna there was some hesitation at the door of the apartment, when the two companions decided they would rather not go in to the domicile.  “Little Bear’s friend refused to enter the apartment saying, “We’re not going in there. Another said, ‘I’m just going to stay back and kind of watch.’”

Brianna said that without being told anything of the situation, Little Bear walked into Anna’s room and pointed to the space above the child’s doll house and said there was, “in essence, a doorway or portal through which the demon was coming through. He said it’s a doorway to the other side and that’s not the side you want to go to.” Little Bear explained that being a child, Anna was more susceptible to the creature, and finally added that possession of the child’s soul was a demon’s ultimate aim.   

The shaman collected his tools which consisted of a turtle shell, eagle feather and sage. He directed them to open all the windows and the doors, and had Jessica and Anna vacate the apartment.  Brianna narrates, Little Bear said, “We’re going to go through and we’re going to smudge everything. We went back out and he blessed us before we went back in.
Alone in Anna’s room, Little Bear said a prayer and smudged the area.  He came back out and directed them to bring Anna, “back in. Because it’s not going away.  We brought her back in and he said, ‘honey, what do you see?’  And she said, ‘door.’ She said, ‘that’s the door.’ She said, ‘monkey, man, play with me.’"

Little Bear took more time working the room. “It took a while.  After, when we were able to go back in it was like it was out of there.  It was like you would walk in and you just kind of felt tensed. Now it was more relaxing.”  But Little Bear made some predictions. “He said, “it’s not out of the house, but right now it’s out of the room.”

Carl, Brianna, Little Bear and Jessica were standing in the hall after Little Bear’s ministrations in the child’s bedroom. “And when we came out of the room, and Little Bear was in front of us.”  As the group was walking toward the living room the group was startled. “He was still smudging, going into the living room when this big ball of light looked like it had just gotten thrown at us and at the same time there was this high pitched sound like a squeal.” Carl added, “It was the most primal scream I’ve ever heard in my life.”  The ball of light appeared to be coming at them right at face level, it was soaring at them one moment, and gone the next.  Having no other explanation the group spotted a smoke detector in the hallway and wondered if the smoke from the sage if it had set off a light in the gizmo. Upon taking the detector apart, they found no bulbs in the unit.  The group was never able to come up with a plausible explanation for the ball of light.

After the cleansing, Little Bear felt that he had rid the building of the demon. For the first time in a very long while Anna was able to spend the night in her own room, and the little family had a few weeks of respite.

 Sadly a few weeks of peace was all they would get, before the odd happenings began again.  Anna reported that the door was back on the wall of her room, and started sleeping with Jessica again.  On another night when the group was together playing a game at the table Brianna distinctly felt her hair tugged. Thinking at first it was Carl who had yanked her ponytail, she realized that his hands were cupping a soda at the time. Not only did Brianna feel the tug, but Carl said he distinctly saw the ponytail rise up into the air on its own.   

And then things started to get “weird” between Jessica and her friends.  Jessica didn’t want any more help, and she indicated to the couple on a few occasions that with Brianna’s Native American heritage perhaps Brianna had somehow brought on the bad things.  She further started displaying emotional problems of anxiety and depression. Jessica eventually broke ties with the couple.

Jessica’s marital problems were escalating as well.  In a strange stroke of fate, three months after the house cleansing, Jessica’s husband moved to the mid-west, taking Anna with him and leaving Jessica alone in the apartment. Brianna said, “I thought that was weird because she had been inseparable from this child. They were tied to the hips since she was born. And then she goes and lives with her Dad.”  Roughly six months after Little Bear’s cleansing Brianna saw a posting on Facebook that Jessica had finally escaped the apartment herself. “She had made that apartment her home,” Brianna surmised, “and it really wasn’t.”

Demonologist Ralph Sarchie in his book, Deliver Us from Evil notes that he often gets an indication that a demon has left the premises. He describes times during exorcisms when he’ll suddenly hear a loud banging or popping sound, usually from another unoccupied part of the building. Having forcibly thrust the interloper from Anna’s room, I wonder if the ball of menacing light and the squealing sound that both Carl and Brianna reported wasn’t just that, the demon’s announcement that he had left the premises.  

In order to do a thorough and complete exorcism of the property, however, the exorcist needs to have access to all floors and all rooms of the building.  In Jessica’s case, Little Bear could only gain access to one of the several apartments.  Thus while his rousting of the demon was successful in the apartment, all the creature had to do was hide somewhere else in the building until such time as he could regain access to his doorway into Anna’s room, which he eventually did.

I think the most tragic part of this tale is Jessica’s plight. While resilient little Anna moved out and away, Jessica stayed, losing her husband, daughter, friends and home. Her mental state deteriorated.  I’m sure the fact that she was both frightened and isolated were a double dose of poison that eventually broke down her reserves.  This is another classic sign of a demon haunt. It’s a divide and conquer strategy where the person who is being terrorized or afflicted is afraid to tell other people of their experiences for fear of being labeled foolish or mentally ill.  Instead they withdraw into themselves and try to battle the bizarre on their own.  Jessica’s husband was without a doubt not a supportive influence in her life.  And eventually Jessica saw even her friends as her enemies.  Not long after the cleansing Brianna admits that Jessica had started showing signs of crumbling mental health.  As she had experienced bouts of both anxiety and depression before, Brianna admits it had never been as bad as it got when the creature returned. This is what a demon desires; fear, self-doubt, self-loathing.  This is a breeding ground for the first stage in a demonic haunt, known as infestation.

I'm often asked at places I've investigated whether the paranormal activity is demonic. Demons are very much on the minds of Americans lately, although such manifestations are rare. In the accounts I have personally collected, it seems that those who have honestly encountered such evil spirits immediately know the difference.  There is a sickening, gut-wrenching, instantaneous knowing that what you're encountering is evil, which is unlike a traditional haunting by a human ghost. But remember, a demon can't come in, into your home, or your life,  unless you invite them in.

Resources

Anonymous (2016)  Voodoo Religion – The History. AllAboutTheOccult.org. Retrieved January 16, 2017 from www.allabouttheoccult.org/voodoo-religion.htm

Anonymous (2015). Haiti; Magical Country of the Caribbeans. BlackMagicWorld.com Retrieved January 16, 2017 from http://www.blackmagicworld.com/haiti-magical-country-of-the-caribbeans.html

Saturday, December 24, 2016

Where the Imaginary Ends and the Dark Begins; Children and their Unseen Friends


By Robin M. Strom Mackey

If you’ve ever been around a small child you’ll probably recall that they chatter all the time.  They chatter to their toys, they chatter to their parents, they make strange noises over and over and over again.  It’s necessary to language development of course, though it may drive you crazy after awhile!  But when and if they start chattering to a friend that only they can see, a parent may start to become uncomfortable.

There are some theories to suggest that children are more open to paranormal experiences than their often more cynical parents.   Some believe that children may be more telepathically astute. The mere fact that they haven’t been told that there is no such thing as telepathy might make them more open to the experiencing of it.
They may also be more telepathically  attune because of their dependence on their parents.  The mere survival of a youngster is contingent on the adult caregiver, and thus a telepathic bond with a parent evolves, which may dissipate as the child develops skills and becomes more independent.
It is believed that telepathy is stronger in the young, dimming with age.  This has been suggested in the study of psychokinesis or poltergeists cases, where the human conduit is usually an adolescent or young adult, an age when the mix of swirling hormones and adolescent angst help spur their already innate abilities. Along those same lines of thinking, does being telepathically more attune also make children more susceptible to spirit communication?   The fact that many children have wonderfully active imaginations creates another problem. As a parent one begins to wonder, where does the imaginary end and the dark begin?   
In an email recently I received an inquiry that intrigued me.  Lindsey wrote:

I have resided in my home for a little over a year now. I have a two-year old [daughter] and a one-year old [son].  Since we have moved here my daughter has acted a little off. Since she has grown older she is now carrying on conversations with something only she can see….

Two weeks ago it [my emphasis] gained a name - Jesse. No one we know or interact with has this name. One of my brothers is named Jesse, but he does not even live in Delaware, and she has never had a relationship with him.” His name rarely comes up, so it’s odd that she just randomly started saying that name.

“I have asked her who Jesse is and where he/she is, and within seconds of me acknowledging its [my emphasis] name my dog started growling at something, which has never happened before. My dog does not have a mean bone in her body.”  She growls only at strangers, and usually only at male strangers.

My son who is one has now started pointing at things that I believe they see, and I do not. Toys will go off; singing in their bedroom when no one is in there. It doesn't seem to be anything violent, but it is becoming more frequent.

And as any mother would be I am getting a little worried about the intentions of whatever this spirit may want. I'm just wondering if you have any advice as to how I can maybe make a connection of this name with someone who may have lived here in the past or what steps I could take to do so. The property has been in my family as a rental house for a long time.  However my grandmother does not believe in the paranormal.” She is not open to listening to me or helping in any way (used with permission).

My first question was, would a child of two be too young to have developed an imaginary friend?  Consulting child development experts suggests that it was young, but not impossible. According to one source, typically children develop such friends from three to eight years of age. Yet another source suggested that children are becoming conscious beings, alert to their own identity, from the time that they can recognize themselves in a mirror.  Further, from the first time onward that a child makes a Choo Choo noise while playing with a toy train, or holds a doll and babbles out dialogue it can be assumed that the child has now developed the ability at abstract play (Turgeon, 2009).

Without any further background knowledge or an investigation into the property I wrote Lindsey back suggesting she could consider the situation in two ways, believer or skeptic:

1. Skeptic:  From a skeptic's point of view we might assume that your daughter has an active imagination and has created a friend for herself.  We may have only heard you mention your brother Jessie in a telephone call. Or maybe she heard the name on a TV program.  Perhaps she seized onto the name because she liked it. I remember doing the same when I was a little girl.  I had the names of my sons picked out by the time I was five.   Maybe she's created her make-believe friend because she's lonely?  In which case maybe some play dates with other kids could be tried, something that would let her socialize with kids her own age more and creating fictional friends less.

My son when he was younger had a lot of electronic toys.  I found they would often start by themselves in his closet, especially when the batteries were low. Try replacing batteries, or taking them out entirely if the toy is not used often.

2. Believer: From the standpoint that you might have an entity trying to speak with her.  Again I would suggest that the same thing. Try to get her out of her room more and playing with other kids

I wouldn't forbid her talking about her friend Jessie, but I wouldn't actively encourage the behavior either. In other words, don’t greet her every morning with the words, “what did the ghost say to you last night?” I’ve seen parents do this to children, thereby encouraging their children in the belief that there is a ghost and only they can communicate with it.  Or worse yet, in the case of children who are easily frightened, scaring the children by making them believe that there actually is a ghost in the house, and it’s trying to communicate with them despite the fact that they want nothing to do with it.   

But I also wouldn't take the hard-core stance that there's “no such thing as ghosts”. This suggests that whatever the child might have experienced is all in their imagination, and worst case scenario might suggest to the child that they may be punished or rebuked for admitting so. It also effectively shuts down the lines of communication.  I’ve read accounts by adults who experienced truly frightening phenomena in their houses as children.  When they tried to tell their parents they were shunned.  In some cases these same children had to endure often terrifying activity in silence.  It’s terrible to imagine a child being victimized in this manner, and even worse to imagine them doing so in isolation.

In-home Investigation

On the market now are all types of nifty surveillance cameras and equipment.  Many standalone cameras can connect to a smart phone.  I would definitely get one that also has audio.  I would suggest that you set one up in her room so that you could see and hear what's going on for yourself. That would hopefully give you some piece of mind. 

Motion sensor night lights in hallways and public spaces might also help you feel a bit more secure. They are available in both plug-in or battery operated. I've placed them all over my house.

To find out more about a property and its history I would start at a local library or historical society - if you have one in the area. Don't be surprised if you find no mention of a Jessie, however. I think that's simply the name your daughter gave her friend. These things rarely work out that neatly.

Paranormal Hypochondria

A parapsychologist acquaintance admits that with all the attention the paranormal has gotten in the media of late that many of us now have developed what he calls paranormal hypochondria.  In every odd situation we now experience we are programmed to read in paranormal.  Lost a loved one, the need becomes even greater.  I once had a conversation with a woman who wanted me to perform an investigation for her.  The conversation started with I lost Dad in 200X and my brother in 200X. She continued, I saw an orb on my surveillance camera and my toddler walked up the stairs and held his arms up asking something that I couldn’t see to pick him up and carry him up the stairs.  (First of all, don’t get me started on orbs!) All in all, I told her this was pretty slim pickings in the way of evidence.

The Third Route

Instead of actively encouraging or discouraging, I would try the third route.  If the child wants to discuss what they experienced try to calmly and openly listen to her.  Listen attentively when she talks to you about her new friend, but don’t bring the subject up with her yourself.  That's just giving her the green light that any such imaginings are just fine with you.  Young children are very in tune with their parent's opinions and will take their cue from your attitude as to how to feel about the situation. You want to be open to listening and remain calm. Ask questions and try to make no formal pronouncements.

Lyndsey’s Experiment

A client of mine, also named Lyndsey, came up with her own solution to a sticky problem. Lyndsey’s home is quite active.  Our team has actually investigated the site three times with another investigation tentatively scheduled for next summer.  Every time we investigate Lyndsey’s house we come away with multiple EVP’s, most often by a speaker who seems to be a woman.  This corresponds with what Lyndsey has told us.  She has confided that she often feels a matronly personality in the home, one that appears to be attached in particular with their very young son.  They have a baby monitor in the child’s room and they often hear the little boy communicating with someone or something that they cannot see. And they often detect strange sounds through the monitor. The activity had always been harmonious.  However, right after our third investigation in early November I got a disturbing email from Lyndsey. 

She said that the activity in the boy’s room had taken a turn for the worse.  He had awoken one night screaming that he had seen a ghost, and demanding to be let out of the room.  For long nights afterward he insisted on sleeping with them in the master bedroom and refused to enter his own room even during the day.  What was she to do?  I gave her the same advice that I’ve written about in this article, suggesting she find some way to speak with the boy calmly so as not to scare the absolute bejesus out of the tyke.  What she did next I thought was brilliant.  She made it into a game.

Using one of the pool soakers – the kind that have the noodle bodies and suck up the water only to shoot it out in a long stream – she told her son that they were going to play ghostbusters.  Walking through the house he was to tell her where he had seen ghosts and she would suck them up.  He dutifully showed her where he had seen entities and she sucked them up and took care of them.  Incidentally, the boy indicated the same spots that we had determined to be active in our investigations.

This activity did a number of things worth noting.  First, it pointed out to a concerned mother where her son was seeing apparitions.  The fact that it appeared to correspond with her experiences and with investigation results is validating.  Second, she took her son seriously neither encouraging him to make things up nor discouraging him from communicating with her. But third, and I think this is the most important, is that it gave mother and son the power back. I’m sure they both felt like they were much more in control after the activity.

Fourth, although some experts in the paranormal community disagree with me, I think Lyndsey’s exercise was a good way to communicate with the spirit.  I have always felt that if a spirit is in some way an essence of a deceased human, than they are bound by the same upbringing and courtesies with which we were raised.  In other words, you can communicate and attempt to set parameters with an unseen house guest.  I think Lyndsey’s game also went a long way toward doing that, indicating to the spirit that she had been seen, that she had overstepped the boundaries by frightening the boy and that such behavior was not acceptable.   

It wasn’t immediate, but Lyndsey eventually got the little tyke sleeping in his own room again, and as far as I know, peacefully.

Final Thoughts – Imaginary Friend or Other

Obviously without a lengthy interview and investigation I can’t say, or even speculate, as to whether Lindsey’s daughter is simply a very precocious and imaginative two-year old, or whether something is truly communicating with the child.   As I said earlier, it has been theorized that very young children are more open to telepathic communication with the spirit world. They may see spirits because they don't know they shouldn't be able to. The ability decreases with age

This is also an age when children are developing the ability of imaginative play.  And this is not something to be discouraged.  The same child development sources suggested that imaginative play has some very positive outcomes. Recent studies have indicated that children who developed imaginary friends weren’t, as had been speculated, lonely and isolated children, but highly creative.  Those that developed these “friends” were both more creative and socially adept than other children. In language studies such children were found to use complex sentence structures and developed advanced vocabularies. Overall, they were more socially adept at getting along with their classmates. The explanation seems to be that children with a developed imaginary friend got a chance at role playing both sides of a conversation. They developed better abstract thinking skills and were better at creating original ideas. The recently released book, Nurture Shock even cites research that seems to indicate that children who spent extended time in abstract play often demonstrated leaps in school achievement (Turgeon, 2009).

Resources

Turgeon, Heather (2009).  Imaginary Friends.   Babble.com (A subsidiary of Disney Inc.) Retrieved November, 27, 2016 from https://www.babble.com/toddler/imaginary-friends-early-child-development-imagination/